11 Words That Have A Different Meaning After You Have Kids

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You think you have mastered the English language. You’re sure you know the meaning of these commonly used words, right? But then you have kids. And you realize that these words you thought you knew take on a whole new definition once you become a parent. Here are 11 words that you’ve had to relearn since having kids, with brand-spanking-new definitions.

  1. Tired

Pre-Kid Definition: Feeling sleepy

Post-Kid Definition: EXHAUUUUSTED. Frickin’ BEAT! A condition usually brought on by severe lack of sleep which happens night after night with no recovery. Every muscle in your body aches. You feel like you just competed in two Iron Mans back to back. Your eyeballs burn. SO, SHUT UP, PRE-KID DEFINITION!

  1. All-Nighter

Pre-Kid Definition: An entire nighttime period spent partying and having fun. No sleep is experienced because one is too busy drinking, dancing and being free. Being so free and alive. So free …

Post-Kid Definition: An entire nighttime period spent up with your baby or toddler who is crying incessantly and won’t go back down in her mother-‘effing crib. Like, she won’t stop crying and it’s making your face melt. And this goes on all night long.

  1. Quickly

Pre-Kid Definition: Doing something with swiftness, efficiency, in a short amount of time.

Post-Kid Definiton: Leaving the house before noon. Or getting out of the grocery store in less than 2 hours.

Pants
Pre-Kid Definition: Trousers or nicely ironed slacks or skinny jeans
Post-Kid Definition: As in, yoga

  1. Eating Out

Pre-Kid Definition: Going to a restaurant and enjoying a leisurely meal wherein you eat and possibly have a glass or two of wine while you talk about world issues and/or the latest episode of RHOBH.

Post-Kid Definition: Going to a restaurant with the hopes of getting food in your belly before you a) either leave voluntarily with ranch dressing across your shirt and tears in your eyes, or b) are kindly asked to leave by the restaurant manager after more than 3 surrounding tables complain about the croutons flying from the circus happening at your table.

  1. Nap

Pre-Kid Definition: A brief episode of sleep, usually taken mid-day to rejuvenate and reenergize. Perhaps taken in a hammock after just a few beers or a delicious, slowly eaten meal.

Post-Kid Definition: Something that is a daily struggle to get your baby or toddler to do; something that doesn’t exist for you anymore, honey.

  1. Pants

Pre-Kid Definition: Trousers or nicely ironed slacks or skinny jeans

Post-Kid Definition: As in, yoga

  1. Sex

Pre-Kid Definition: Hot, torrid and potentially spur-of-the-moment boot-knocking that happens often and anywhere

Post-Kid Definition: A major event. Likely put on the calendar. To occur in your bedroom, done quietly as to not disturb young housemates, in an amount of time usually cut short by said housemates with a “MAAAAAHHHMMMM!” Or just crying, either of which pretty much kills the mood.

  1. Gross

Pre-Kid Definition: Very unpleasant, foul, even repulsive

Post-Kid Definition: BOW DOWN TO ME, PRE-KID DEFINITION!!!

  1. Chillin’

Pre-Kid Definition: Relaxing. Taking time to do absolutely nothing. Kicking it.

Post-Kid Definition: This word does not exist.

  1. Acceptable

Pre-Kid Definition: Able to be agreed upon. Suitable.

Post-Kid Definition: Whatever you can do — be it begging, bribing or surrendering — to get your small child to just put on her stupid pants.

  1. Love

Pre-Kid Definition: A feeling of deep affection or attachment

Post-Kid Definition: You never knew how your heart could burst with such happiness and intense affection for a tiny little human that looks sort of like you. Your soul lights up when you see him. Your heart aches when you are away from her. And you can’t even begin to imagine your life before they were in it. Even if you actually got sleep back then.

Once you have children, everything changes  even the definitions of words.

Via mom.me

Are You This Lucky?

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There is one rule in most situations to don’t compare yourself to others. But as moms, that’s almost impossible not to do, we now spend a majority of our time with other parents and their kids. I often think to myself, is she just a better mom than me, or does she have easier kids?

Of course, I know the answer to this question. All children come with their own set of rules, and I’m doing the best I can, but it’s still hard because our children can be a reflection of us to the outside world.

These are the moms some wouldn’t mind trading places with for one day:

  1. The Moms whose Kids Sit in the Shopping Cart

The grocery store is practically handing us an excellent ticket when they offer carts that look like race cars. It should be a toddler version of someone letting me drive their Ferrari but my kid make me want to drive off a precipice as I push that ridiculously enormous object and here comes another car cruising towards me, those damn carts are so huge we have to knock down all the displays to get what we want most of the times.

  1. Moms whose Kids Hold Their Hand When Walking Down the Street

These are the moments I apologize to the parenting gods for ever judging anyone who put their child on a leash. I want to handcuff mine most of the times. Even when he does hold my hand walking, it’s a little vague; his arm is in a constant shake motion.

  1. The Moms whose Kids Brush Their Hair and Teeth

Just ask my kid sometimes every morning is a mission to do it, he is little and he needs my help but even that he wants to make it himself and is the constant fight every morning. It makes no difference what flavor the toothpaste is or what character appears on their toothbrush.

  1. The Moms whose Kids Leave Places in peace

Everywhere we go somewhere and it’s time to get back into the car to leave my kid act like I’m tearing him away from Disney World. No matter where we are, chaos ensues when it’s time to go. I think I won’t take him to Disney World until at least their mid-30s, when he establishes some self-control.

Needless to say, these are things I never imagined would be an issue before I was a mother. I had no idea my child would complain about the simplest tasks, he also knows the right moment to plant a kiss on my cheek or bring a smile on my face, but I also have come to embrace the chaos, and laugh each day because I survive the unexpected but even the adversity I consider myself a lucky mom.

7 Parenting Mistakes Than Can Ruin Your Relationship

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I live with my partner for already 3 years and of course I’m not an expert. I’ve made enough mistakes I think, and also having a 2 years old toddler makes it more difficult. There’s room for mistakes and resistance in a relationship, nobody is the perfect parent or the perfect partner.Here are some mistakes that parenting commits:

  1. Not making time for each other. Let’s face it, raising kids takes tons of time and energy but you’ve got to make sure that you reserve some of that for your partner. Find time to connect. Have fun, laugh, be intimate and remind each other why you started a family together in the first place.
  2. Not making time for you. Another mistake that’s so easy to make is losing yourself completely to your family. You’ve got to make time for yourself. It is necessary.
  3. Not having fun as a family. Interacting as a family unit, especially when it’s something fun, is a great way to boost marital morale.
  4. Not asking for help. If you’re going to find the time for yourself, your partner and your family, you will need help. You can’t be afraid to ask for it. It’s especially important that your significant other knows what you need from them. Ask for help and make sure you get it.
  5. Micromanaging your child’s care. If your partner takes over bedtime duties, let them get it done in the way that works for them. You can’t expect others to do things exactly like you do. Believe me, leaving the control can be extremely hard, but holding on to it drives a piece out in your relationship.
  6. Differing discipline. While it’s extremely important that both parents are allowed their own parenting style, it is also key that they don’t damage each other. Do your best to get on the same page and act as a united front; nothing breeds resentment like being thrown under the bus.
  7. Sharing your bed with your kids. The family bed situation may not be a problem if both parents are happy with the sleeping arrangement. But if sharing your bed with your kids is affecting the quality of your sleep or the romantic intimacy, it might not be the best for your family.

 

You love your child but sometimes…

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I would do anything for my child, but sometimes I feel guilty to admit the truth about that sometimes I don’t like him very much. The key is that I don’t like his behavior and is not that I don’t like him as a person. When I say that I don’t like my child is probably the unappropriated behavior that sometimes I have to be the viewer, I can feel frustrated because I am tired of the constant back talk, the yelling or the arguing. Or I don’t like the way my child treats me lately, this reflection is directed toward those parents that feel the same way I feel at any age of their children.

I think there are periods of time when we don’t like our child because of a certain stage we are experiencing through. As a mother I really liked being around him, and I couldn’t imagine my life without him but at this point I disliked his behavior so much that sometimes I feel really exhaust knowing is completely natural at this point of his 2-years old and it’s all part of my child growing up and starting a life of his own, even if it’s painful at times.

Here’s an important distinction I’d like to make again: not liking your child’s behavior is very different from not liking him as a person. A child’s behavior becomes part of his personality in some ways. In fact, you often can’t see where he ends and the behavior begins and actually you also associate him with his personality as the words are coming out of your child’s mouth. You can see the nasty look on your child’s eyes sometimes even at this early age and you can hear the rude tone in your son’s voice. It’s easy to get frustrated and it becomes easy not to like the child who’s performing this type of behavior at any age.

I think it’s important to realize that sometimes kids can be a pain in the neck, just like the rest of us, is just a stage and is not connected on how much we love them.

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A Little Reflection To A Full Time Working Mother

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Dear all of us,

I see you there same as myself everyday. We are the ones arriving to work 30 seconds before the time to not be considered late, we have been up since early in the morning to get dressed, served breakfast, and dropped off at a school our children on the way to the office.  Sometimes your pants are a little wrinkled or you makeup is not fully complete.

We are anxiously checking our cellphone during the day to see the camera at their school (in my case) since my son is 2-years old and this little one has been sick for four consecutive days.  We pray that daycare won’t call us to pick them up because we have no more sick days specially starting the year in January, to use them all, and we are in panic to ask our boss to leave early one more time.  Someone asks us to go out to lunch, but we passed because we have to go to buy some groceries, milk, diapers or something else needed at home.

When others are staying at work to get ahead for tomorrow, we are rushing out the door to pick up our kids because after a specific time the school charge you $1.00 per an extra minute and we have already been away from our children already more than 9 hours.  We can’t wait to have them back in our arms even knowing that they drive us crazy most of the times.  We feel like everyone else is doing better at their job than us.  When we are at work we feel guilty that we aren’t with our kids. If we had to evaluate ourselves, we’d say that we are an okay Mom and an acceptable employee, definitely not an exceptional mother for your point of view.

I can’t forget to mention the hurry after I pick up my child from school to get home and attempt to cook something healthy, sometimes not that healthy but I refuse to stop on drive thrus, probably my options are not healthy for some but healthier than others, I don’t compare; I just try to do the best I can for my son and family.

Your stay- at- home mom friends often wish they could work outside their home or just have a little adult conversation…We most of the time feel a little bit jealous of them, and we worry that our kids are missing out on having a close group of friends to play with.

I also see that we have a way of calm that many others do not. Just mentioning that most of the time things start to go wrong at work and I am the last one to overreact.  It’s obvious that this disaster is a small dimension compared to raising kids under the age of five.  I see the kindness in our eyes when a teammate is complaining up about a mistake made and that is nothing anymore for me. Others wonder about my tolerant, patience, and forgiving attitude comparing on how I was when I was not having kids. Nothing stresses me more at work anymore than working full- time and raising my son.

Working does not make us less of a mom.  Being a mom doesn’t make us a fragile employee.  If we are working because our family depends on it financially, I congratulate us and congratulate myself, we need to be proud of what we are achieving.

Sincerely,

Mom of a toddler

Understanding your children‘s emotions

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Emotions are part of the humans inside, understand them is needed to live in harmony around people and with ourselves. It Is necessary to understand your emotions and live in peace with them, we need to understand as well the peoples’ and recognize the consequences of fight them down.

Do not put down your children’s emotions, the consequences could be negative on their behaviors. In this post, I would like to share with you some of the consequences and thoughts on how to put down your children’s emotions can affect them seriously.

  • Feeling emotions is not sometime negative in our life’s; putting down or ignore your child’s emotions would let them think that is showing a negative feeling.
  • They will learn not to cry and show his emotions in a different way like anger and fury, as an effect they can develop mental problems in the future.
  • They will feel confuse once they want to cry and won’t know what to do when they are feeling sad and will hide to cry thinking there is something bad as the illusion that only fragile and weak people cry.
  • Kid will grow up without emotional intelligence and will disconnect from their heart developing health problems.
  • The lack of creativeness and connection with their emotions won’t let them be real and won’t show their authenticity showing their real personality.
  • They will develop immature personality having difficulties to understand others individuals in their environments.
  • They will be able to blame other people on the way they feels, instead to find a solution on how they feel.
  • Once they experience a difficult situation like the lost of a family member for example, they will have more chances to commit suicidal acts.
  • Kid will feel useless and won’t have their self steam strong and define, since they are not having the emotional support from their parents or guardians.
  • As adults they will feel some time of bitterness and resentment about their life because they did not learn how to express their emotions.
  • In school they could face mistreatment and neglecting, especially when they are little, and in the job place as adults because they would not know how to express emotions.
  • They could develop some addictions as drinking, drugs, smoking and all type of addictions since he will feel empty inside

As a parents we need to take the time to understand our children since they are born, and also on all the phases on their lives. They need us to understand the way they are feeling inside.

Children needs to understand their emotions , we need to let them laugh, cry, and get angry; they need to understand that emotions are normal; with time they will understand the meaning of each emotion to find the solutions and feel better as individuals.

How can grandparents not to adore a toddler with their innocent faces and enthusiasm? 


How can grandparents not to adore toddler with their innocent faces and enthusiasm? Grandchildren from the age to 1-3 offer an innumerable new grandparents experiences, however the toddler years are also the time when grandparent s worry about their grandchildren development and milestones, we need to remember that al kids are different and they develop at their own speed. The main brain booster for the toddler is the verbal attention, talk to them and play word games such as naming body parts, the animal sounds, read books encouraging the language development.