UNPLANNED LIFE EVENTS

 

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Life could be complicated, something out of our control, you plan your life when you are younger, year by year, you see yourself in some specific aspects in some moments and periods of your life;  you visualize you in a certain way, you plan and plan but sometimes your destiny and life are going in a different direction and I am speaking for myself. I planned my whole life in a specific way and the opposite occurred.  I learned that lesson… by the age of 26 I was supposed to be graduated from School, married and with kids, and of course dedicating my life to my children, I mean children in plural, more than one, in a big house, with my mother close to me, coming to take care of my children when I had to run for errands, to go out with my husband, I mean husband yes…. And of course to have help in my house to do the everyday job, do laundry, cleaning the house, iron the clothes, open the garage door once I arrive with the groceries etc. and of course living a prosperous monetary life in my own country.

Life can change and has different plans for you sometimes, I had to come to USA in my twenty’s and took 8 years for me to obtain my legal status, I started school at the age of 30, I have not married yet, and I had my first son at 42 years old, a mature age to have your first son. I found a nice guy and a good father for my son, I work pay check to pay check and I haven’t have the honor and privilege to have any help in my daily activities. I have to work full time and had to left my 3 months old son in a daycare because I had to work obligatory. I found my partner in life but sadly he has a disease, he has Polycystic Kidney Disease, he is only 37 years old, he found out this disease on his late 20s, he will go in a difficult time same as me for the transplant process and we don’t know if my son will hereditary this disease, he is the one from his two brothers to heredity the disease from his father.

Presently I have to continue to provide the best quality of life to my son and my family, I cannot plan in a nearly future, and I live day by day. Life is tough and full of surprises. I always emphasize to people how important is not to visualize yourself in the perfect way, the breakdown could hurts a lot.

Now we are in the process of the transplant through Miami Transplant Institute to be part of the transplant list, also trying to be more conscious about the life style knowing that we need to improve some areas, especially the meal plan following and practice this web recipes  Kidney Disease Recipes and I hope it helps others with kidney disease also.

Thanks to follow my blog, this blog help me to release stress and share my life experiences to people who probably feel the same way I am actually.

Monica
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UNPLANNED LIFE EVENTS

 

Kelvin.jpg

Life could be complicated, something out of our control, you plan your life when you are younger, year by year, you see yourself in some specific aspects in some moments and periods of your life;  you visualize you in a certain way, you plan and plan but sometimes your destiny and life are going in a different direction and I am speaking for myself. I planned my whole life in a specific way and the opposite occurred.  I learned that lesson… by the age of 26 I was supposed to be graduated from School, married and with kids, and of course dedicating my life to my children, I mean children in plural, more than one, in a big house, with my mother close to me, coming to take care of my children when I had to run for errands, to go out with my husband, I mean husband yes…. And of course to have help in my house to do the everyday job, do laundry, cleaning the house, iron the clothes, open the garage door once I arrive with the groceries etc. and of course living a prosperous monetary life in my own country.

Life can change and has different plans for you sometimes, I had to come to USA in my twenty’s and took 8 years for me to obtain my legal status, I started school at the age of 30, I have not married yet, and I had my first son at 42 years old, a mature age to have your first son. I found a nice guy and a good father for my son, I work pay check to pay check and I haven’t have the honor and privilege to have any help in my daily activities. I have to work full time and had to left my 3 months old son in a daycare because I had to work obligatory. I found my partner in life but sadly he has a disease, he has Polycystic Kidney Disease, he is only 37 years old, he found out this disease on his late 20s, he will go in a difficult time same as me for the transplant process and we don’t know if my son will hereditary this disease, he is the one from his two brothers to heredity the disease from his father.

Presently I have to continue to provide the best quality of life to my son and my family, I cannot plan in a nearly future, and I live day by day. Life is tough and full of surprises. I always emphasize to people how important is not to visualize yourself in the perfect way, the breakdown could hurts a lot.

Now we are in the process of the transplant through Miami Transplant Institute to be part of the transplant list, also trying to be more conscious about the life style knowing that we need to improve some areas, especially the meal plan following and practice this web recipes  Kidney Disease Recipes and I hope it helps others with kidney disease also.

Thanks to follow my blog, this blog help me to release stress and share my life experiences to people who probably feel the same way I am actually.

Monica
This page contains affiliate links and I earn a commission if you shop through them. Prices won’t be effected.

DO NOT SAY IT TO A WORKING MOM 

Things Not to Say to a Working Mom

1. Who raises your child? 

Last time I checked, that was me and my husband. Do I have a village helping out? The bigger question is, would you ask that of my husband if I was staying home while he worked? Is he not raising his kids because he’s working? I didn’t think so. So stop asking me who raises my children.

2. I could never trust someone else to take care of my child.

Great. Good for you. Stop trying to make yourself feel better about your trust issues by backhandedly telling me you can’t believe I send my child to daycare.

3. I don’t know how you do it. 

You know what, some days I have no flipping clue how I do it either. But at the end of the day, my child is happy and healthy. There’s no magic to working full time and parenting small children. It’s all about routines and balance and a whole lot of letting go of perfection. 

4. I’d be upset if I missed a baby milestone.

Well, that sucks for you. But please don’t place your negative thoughts on me. I have enough self-imposed mom guilt, and I don’t need you adding any to it. It’s not like I’ll never see my baby take some new wobbly walking steps. I’ll still get to see her drunken sailor walk even if I miss those first couple of steps. Remember, I’m raising my children, right? Nothing gets past me.

5. Don’t you miss your children?

Of course I do. Don’t you? But some days, if you could possibly imagine it. And honestly, for me, having some time away from my son makes me a better mom. I know that not all moms feel this way, but if you could just respect my feelings, that’d be great. 

6. They’re only little for a short time.

I couldn’t agree with you, I’m in huge denial about it. And I think any parent feels that way about time. But contrary to popular belief, time would NOT slow down if I stay home. There’s 24 hours in a day, 365 days in a year. Working or not, as the saying goes, the days are long, but the years are short.

7. If you didn’t have such high standards for your lifestyle, you wouldn’t need to work.

Huh? I’m living paycheck to paycheck, for which I’m fortunate about and so many working moms do struggle to pay the bills also but that doesn’t mean I’m rolling in the dough. I only treat myself on special occasions. 

8. I’d prefer for my wife to stay home.
Oh, yes, I’ve heard this. Twice. From the same colleague. Well, good for you that your wife gave up her teaching career to fulfill your desires of landing Suzy Homemaker. That’s not my situationan. 

9. I’m so blessed to be able to stay at home. Good for you. Oh, and if you’re saying this to a working mom who works out of necessity, rather than choice, know you are just making her feel even worse. 

Some information was obtained from Mom.me

Monica