“Hurry up,” “Faster”Yes, I tell my son to move fast without hesitation, question or guilt. “Move fast” are two words that have been ingrained in my mind since I myself was a kid, and thank goodness moving fast is one of life’s most important abilities that many modern parents, I think, are dropping the ball about when it comes to teaching our kids life skills.
No, we don’t want our children rushing through life without enjoyment. No, we don’t want our kids to be unappreciative of the present. But, do I believe we can enjoy life and be mindful at a faster pace? Yes.
The faster you move, the more you can fit into your day. It’s pure math.
But how can you enjoy anything if you’re just moving fast? You’re teaching your kids to rush through life?!
Moving fast helps us cope with the ongoing issue of so much to do, so little time that every single mom I know deals with. I load the dishwasher fast. I dress fast. I put on my seatbelt fast. I fix my bed fast. I refuse to waste precious time on things that matter less than more important stuff, and it’s a strategic skill I’m trying to teach my son every day as they grow up.
I tell my son to “hurry up and move fast” for his own future survival in a demanding world. “If you make decisions fast, get dressed quickly and don’t waste time on unimportant stuff throughout your day like getting out of the car, then you’ll have more time to play and spend quality time on things you actually like to do.”
The more I train him to move quickly, the better prepared he will be for life’s swift-moving and overabundant to-do’s when they’re adults. They’ll be better equipped to handle a busy, full life with ongoing family/work/personal responsibilities than the kids who were raised being able to take their sweet time getting shoes on back in the day.
Am I wrong?
But how can you enjoy anything if you’re just moving fast? You’re teaching your kids to rush through life?! I’m glad you asked. And while this may not be an answer everyone likes, it’s true: Not every single tiny thing in life requires pure and uninterrupted enjoyment—some things just need to get done and be done.
Do we really need to’ enjoy the act of brushing our teeth? I’ll argue no. In fact, I’ll argue that moving quickly requires extra concentration on the immediate task at hand so that we may do it quickly, without distraction, and move on to the next thing.
Now excuse me, but my time here is up. It’s been a blast. But I’ve got a dishwasher to unload.
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