We have not come to this world with a manual on how to be a parent; our main goal is to provide to our kids the best quality of life possible to raise happy and respectful humans. One of the most difficult issues that parents meet presently could be the anxiety in kids. Most of the common mistakes parents do when they see their children showing signs of anxiety are yelling, punishment, and the verbal threats that most of the times create more tension on them.
Remember that is not your goal to be the best parent in the world; your goal is to be there for your kids and be the best example where they can feel support and love. Most of the time you heard that anxiety in kids is transmitted by their parent but is not completely accurate.
All kids in some point of their life feel the fear to be abandoned, they cry in school, they feel unusual fears without a reason and sometimes they have gone through episodes in their life where they develop some type of anxiety, for example the experience to lose a familiar member that can generate some type of fear on them.
As a parents we can make their life so charming and calm as we would wish, the most important advice is to be there for them, to notice anything in particular that is not considered normal, learn to listen to them and understand them, educate based in intelligence and comprehension can help us to prevent the anxiety in our children. They are evidence that sometimes if at least one of the parents presents some type of anxiety their kids will develop some type of anxiety between the age of 6 and 13 years old but there is not a specific reason to develop it, sometimes is a combination of genetic and some environmental factors.
The most important thing is that if one of the parents present some type of anxiety needs to be treated and be conscious that is crucial in the development of our kids.
Let’s have in practice some strategies on how to prevent and challenge anxiety in our kids:
- Kids need to confront their fears: Is normal to protect our kids, but overprotective is not really healthy for them, we need to let them be capable to challenge their fears, once they test their fears they will feel proud of themselves.
- Use positive messages to communicate to them: Congratulate your kids for each task they perform good, and the most important thing is to avoid and criticize something when they do it wrong. Never used depreciate words because in the future they will remember them and will cause a stage on anxiety at some point.
- Understand what is important to them: Sometimes we criticize things that for them are important and we somewhat for lack of time and dedication are not noticed. Always listen what they want to say to you.
- Talk to your kids about everything that cause them distress or fear: Talk to them in a comprehensive way and with attention, always provide support and conform to them.
Parenting is not easy, every day is a challenge.
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